We’ve all been there. Your confidence takes a blow and you start to say and do things at 50% of your capacity. People will tell you “you’re not yourself?” You will tell yourself “what am I doing, what am I saying”. You know it’s your confidence but knowing it doesn’t help and it certainly doesn’t get you back on track in an instant.
Having spent hours with all sorts of people from various walks of life, the common theme before an interview or a big pitch is that confidence plays a massive part. Gary Vaynerchuk (vaynermedia & winelibrarytv), often says that he doesn’t need a script or a Powerpoint to give him the confidence or boost in front of a crowd because he is talking his truth.
Confidence is speaking your truth. I remember distinctly working for a multi-national corporation and presenting a Powerpoint to an audience of 200 executives. I felt so nervous I wore the wrong pants. Yep I rocked up with a different jacket to my pants and knew it wasn’t going to go well. The presentation was written by someone behind a desk, in another State. I looked at it the night before and just read all these bullet points that didn’t make sense.
One bullet point read, “the consensus is that 50% will be looking next year”…I thought…what consensus, 50% of who and why are they looking and for what? So I started following this presentation, reading it to the crowd and having an ‘out of body experience’ with this room of 400 eye balls, it was a nightmare coming true.
Until about half way through when I realised. Luke you know this topic back to front, you live, breathe and sleep this shizzle and talk about it to anyone that will listen. Screw the presentation and talk the truth, from the heart and get this crowd engaged. It worked (in case you were wondering). I loved every minute. I had half the room waiting around to get a chance to talk to me about their industry and what makes them tick. Clients wanted to discuss gaps in their business to find talent and emails after flooded in for request to get together over coffee and stay in touch.
To be clear, it’s not about the accolades or appreciation but it’s about the fact that they are a symbol of your ability to communicate your truth, passion and insights to get cut through and be the best possible version of you. Therefore confidence is linked to truth. Truth is linked to inspiration. Inspiration starts a tribe. That tribe have a common goal and they will be led by you to the destiny.